Looking for the Answer

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For about the past three months I have struggled with reading books and websites to learn about babies and scheduling them.  All of this reading has really only made me feel FRUSTRATED and it has taken me a while to figure out why.  Finally it hit me on Sunday as I was double stepping it up from the basement to Sarah Graves' nursery trying to get there in time to put the pacifier back in before she really woke up and would not go back to napping, there is no book to offer the directions on how to do it.  I somewhat knew this all along, but I kept hoping that a book on how to get your baby to sleep or a website on how to schedule your baby would offer some glimpse of wisdom that would tell me exactly what to do.  You see, I am trained to research things and believe in there being a way to fix things.  What I realized during what felt like my 45th trip up the stairs to the nursery that day, is that there is no book that will tell me how to "fix" it and every baby is so different that you have to just feel your way.  Sure, reading things gives me ideas of what to try and websites sometimes offer insight from other parents, but no one can give me a step-by-step guide to help my baby sleep when she needs to, eat just the right amount, and be gloriously happy the rest of the time.  I think that those children live in a place called STEPFORD.  This doesn't mean that I won't keep looking for any insight to help us out! 

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Nikki said…
I'm so sorry the schedule is causing so much grief for you all. I do hope that some magic beans or a wand or the sleep fairy all visit soon.

I will think sleep thoughts for sweet Sarah in the meantime!
May 27, 2010 at 5:34 PM
Leslie said…
Every child (and parent) is different, so there's not step-by-step instructions (though I think we all wish for them). It takes a while, but I promise eventually, you will all 3 get into a routine of sorts. It'll all settle in and you'll be able to work it (even if it doesn't match anyone else's). It's hard at first, but it will all settle in and you'll all be happy and in love and that's all that matters. :)
May 28, 2010 at 12:43 PM
Libby said…
AMEN! I've been doing the same thing, and some of the most helpful things I've read have been blogs from other moms--just knowing we're "normal" and that other people are going through the same things has been nice :).
May 30, 2010 at 8:02 AM
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